
Baby steps and struggly downward dogs
“If your legs aren’t already straight, don’t try adding this in. Don’t ever force yourself. Let your muscles and tissues grow and change over months and years.” This morning’s yoga class felt a little different. It was very slow and mild with an emphasis on finding the edge and then not pushing it. A little … Continue reading “Baby steps and struggly downward dogs”

The problem with being good at running away from lions
Humans are good at running away from lions. (Like, yes, a lion’s gonna catch us, but we’re good at trying.) Danger equals adrenaline equals quick speedy fight or flight. Human bodies are good at this. Some people grow up running away from lions every single day. Lions that sound like dad yelling again or the … Continue reading “The problem with being good at running away from lions”

Trapped in your story of you
You and I have similar bodies. And similar brains. Similar minds and hearts, even. Humans are mostly, well, human. Which tells me that if you can do something I can do something. At least mostly. Like I can’t Michael Phelps, but I can pay down my credit cards. I can speak my truth and argue … Continue reading “Trapped in your story of you”

Cut yourself some slack, it’s just how brains work
Sights, sounds, smells, and all those senses enter the brain through something called the thalamus. The thalamus passes this mix of sensations in two directions: The amygdala and the frontal cortex. The amygdala keeps you alive by freaking out about stuff. It quickly checks with the hippocampus to see if the new information might remind … Continue reading “Cut yourself some slack, it’s just how brains work”

Sad People
“Eeyore, the old grey Donkey, stood by the side of the stream, and looked at himself in the water.‘Pathetic,’ he said. ‘That’s what it is. Pathetic.’He turned and walked slowly down the stream for twenty yards, splashed across it, and walked slowly back on the other side. Then he looked at himself in the water … Continue reading “Sad People”

To a little kid, little hurts are big and real
I want to speak up for a group of people that can’t really speak up for themselves. A group of little people. People who don’t get taken too seriously when they speak up. Because they’re “just” little kids. (Hey you, if you saw this title and clicked on this post because you were excited to … Continue reading “To a little kid, little hurts are big and real”

I’m free now
When I was a kid, I did have happy times. In fact a lot of my childhood memories feel happy. Even some of the stuff that, as an independent-minded adult, I now look back at as creepy or dysfunctional. I wish people understood that just because someone has some happiness, or feels like things are … Continue reading “I’m free now”

I have anxiety and that’s okay
I have anxiety. Some days I am in the zone, killing it. I am a manager and I’m good at it. I am great at sales and customer service. I am great at leading projects. I am the president of a Toastmasters club and I think I’m a good leader. I am a really good … Continue reading “I have anxiety and that’s okay”

What is your Christmas like?
Christmas is supposed to be a time for feeling safety and love and togetherness. Right? What is your Christmas like, though? What is it really like? Some of us have had that love and belonging that has made Christmas merry. And some of us have instead had mostly loneliness, rejection, confusion, and hurt. I bet … Continue reading “What is your Christmas like?”

You’d be surprised how many of us are broken.
Hey friend, I’m asking you to take a closer look. The world asks us all to put our best foot forward. To be fun, to be chill, to be cool, to be strong, dependable, easy to get along with. Work demands our game face. We’re competing constantly. At all times on display, being assessed, critiqued, … Continue reading “You’d be surprised how many of us are broken.”

Happy Thanksgiving 2019!
Happy Thanksgiving 2019! Last year I wrote that I thought that year was the oddest year of my life. I was wrong. This year. 100%. Odd isn’t bad, though. I have a lot to be thankful for. There’s all the usual, but there are some things I’m especially, newly thankful for this year. An odd … Continue reading “Happy Thanksgiving 2019!”

Can you love humans AND cut people off?
How do you feel about these two “truths?” Deep down, everyone is just human, with their insecurities and feelings, needing love and, as a human, no matter how broken, worthy of love. Some people are toxic, narcissistic, cruel, and unloving, and permanently ending your relationship with them is the healthiest choice. I bet most of … Continue reading “Can you love humans AND cut people off?”

What we got wrong about love
I don’t remember what game we were playing, or what this little boy was having a tough time with, but I remember like it was yesterday watching his father get more and more frustrated, eventually losing his temper and snapping at his sweet little boy. They were on a team and they were losing and … Continue reading “What we got wrong about love”