Imagine you’re holding the hand of a little child, seeing tears brim in their eyes. Frustrated. Embarrassed. Not good enough.
How delicately will you hold that child’s heart in your hands? What will you say? How gentle will you be with their sensitive little heart?
This child needs love and support. You would be gentle and kind with them, wouldn’t you?
With yourself, on the other hand? . . .
You do a good job hiding your secret. You’re big now. Strong, seasoned, tough, even a touch jaded. You choke the tears back these days. Nobody can know. You can’t be needy.
But you are that child. You’re just a little taller than you used to be. Still, the sensitive heart is there as it always has been.
So my wish for you today is that you’ll be gentle with yourself.
Today, when your mind floods with reasons to feel small, ashamed, not good enough . . . see in yourself the sensitive little child–trying your best, just needing love–and reach out to yourself. Hold yourself in love and respect and appreciation and compassion.
It’s easy to forget that we are every bit as human and precious as “other” people–it’s easier to love those other people, looking vulnerable, with the tears in their eyes. It’s harder to be kind to ourselves. To accept our own vulnerability and need for love. To know our inner child. To say, “I am good enough. I am loved. Everything is going to be okay.”
How do those words feel when you say them to yourself? What if you stopped blaming and shaming yourself, and spoke to yourself as you would to the little child?
Do you ever comfort yourself? Can you try?
I hope that you will be gentle with yourself.