There are always 2 categories:
- What you’re focusing on right now
- Everything else
Category #1 always looks bigger and seems to matter more.
But category #2 will always be bigger, and there are almost always lots of things in category #2 that matter a lot more.
When you’re focused on a stress at work, you still have a loving spouse to hang out with as soon as you get home. And maybe that explains why you work through the stress.
When you’re focused on an expensive car repair bill, there are people all around the world that don’t have a car, and there is an understanding landlord who might give you an extra couple weeks on rent this month.
When you’re focused on your craving, there is still a closet full of workout gear you bought when you were in a more inspired mood.
When you’re focused on one high maintenance, impossible-to-please client, all your other clients are still there feeling grateful and well served.
When you’re focusing on what you failed at this year, there are still lots of ways you grew and things you accomplished.
When you’re focusing on that piano you still haven’t been able to buy, there’s a big mall down the street with a grand piano free for you to come and play.
When you’re focusing on what might go wrong with the presentation you’re about to give, there are still the hours of preparation you put in and thoughtful people interested to hear what you have to share.
When you’re focused on an insensitive thing your spouse said, there’s still a whole big relationship full of happy memories and friendship that you’re not focusing on.
Remember to take a step back and change focus now and then. Especially when the thing you’re focusing on seems too big.